Category Archives: Neuroses

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“At this point I propose to leave the dark and dismal subject of the traumatic neurosis and pass on to examine the method of working employed by the mental apparatus in one of its earliest normal activities I mean in children’s play.

“The different theories of children’s play have only recently been summarized and discussed from the psycho-analytic point of view by Pfeifer (1919), to whose paper I would refer my readers. These theories attempt to discover the motives which lead children to play, but they fail to bring into the foreground the economic motive, the consideration of the yield of pleasure involved. Without wishing to include the whole field covered by these phenomena, I have been able, through a chance opportunity which presented itself to throw some light upon the first game played by a little boy of one and a half and invented by himself. It was more than a mere fleeting observation, for I lived under the same roof as the child and his parents for some weeks, and it was some time before I discovered the meaning of the puzzling activity which he constantly repeated.

“The child was not at all precocious in his intellectual development. At the age of one and a half he could say only a few comprehensible words; he could also make use of a number of sounds which expressed a meaning intelligible to those around him. He was, however, on good terms with his parents and their one servant-girl, and tributes were paid to his being a ‘good boy. He did not disturb his parents at night, he conscientiously obeyed orders not to touch certain things or go into certain rooms, and above all he never cried when his mother left him for a few hours. At the same time, he was greatly attached to his mother, who had not only fed him herself but had also looked after him without any outside help. This good little boy, however, had an occasional disturbing habit of taking any small objects he could get hold of and throwing them away from him into a corner, under the bed, and so on, so that hunting for his toys and picking them up was often quite a business. As he did this he gave vent to a loud, long-drawn-out ‘o-o-o-o,’ accompanied by an expression of interest and satisfaction. His mother and the writer of the present account were agreed in thinking that this was not a mere interjection but represented the German word ‘fort’ ['gone']. I eventually realized that it was a game and that the only use he made of any of his toys was to play ‘gone’ with them. One day I made an observation which confirmed my view. The child had a wooden reel with a piece of string tied round it. It never occurred to him to pull it along the floor behind him, for instance, and play at its being a carriage. What he did was to hold the reel by the string and very skilfully throw it over the edge of his curtained cot, so that it disappeared into it, at the same time uttering his expressive ‘o-o-o-o’. He then pulled the reel out of the cot again by the string and hailed its reappearance with a joyful ‘da’ ['there]. This, then, was the complete game—disappearance and return. As a rule one only witnessed its first act, which was repeated untiringly as a game in itself, though there is no doubt that the greater pleasure was attached to the second act.

“The interpretation of the game then became obvious. It was related to the child’s great cultural achievement the instinctual renunciation (that is, the renunciation of instinctual satisfaction) which he had made in allowing his mother to go away without protesting. He compensated himself for this, as it were, by himself staging the disappearance and return of the objects within his reach. It is of course a matter of indifference from the point of view of judging the effective nature of the game whether the child invented it himself or took it over on some outside suggestion. Our interest is directed to another point. The child cannot possibly have felt his mother’s departure as something agreeable or even indifferent. How then does his repetition of this distressing experience as a game fit in with the pleasure principle? It may perhaps be said in reply that her departure had to be enacted as a necessary preliminary to her joyful return, and that it was in the latter that lay the true purpose of the game. But against this must be counted the observed fact that the first act, that of departure, was staged as a game in itself and far more frequently than the episode in its entirety, with its pleasurable ending.

“No certain decision can be reached from the analysis of a single case like this. On an unprejudiced view one gets an impression that the child turned his experience into a game from another motive. At the outset he was in a passive situation he was overpowered by the experience; but, by repeating it, unpleasurable though it was, as a game, he took on an active part. These efforts might be put down to an instinct for mastery that was acting independently of whether the memory was in itself pleasurable or not. But still another interpretation may be attempted. Throwing away the object so that it was ‘gone’ might satisfy an impulse of the child’s, which was suppressed in his actual life, to revenge himself on his mother for going away from him. In that case it would have a defiant meaning: ‘right, then, go away! I don’t need you. I’m sending you away myself.’ A year later, the same boy whom I had observed at his first game used to take a toy, if he was angry with it, and throw it on the floor, exclaiming: ‘Go to the fwont!’ He had heard at that time that his absent father was ‘at the front’, and was far from regretting his absence; on the contrary he made it quite clear that he had no desire to be disturbed in his sole possession of his mother. We know of other children who liked to express similar hostile impulses by throwing away objects instead of persons. We are therefore left in doubt as to whether the impulse to work over in the mind some overpowering experience so as to make oneself master of it can find expression as a primary event, and independently of the pleasure principle. For, in the case we have been discussing, the child may, after all, only have been able to repeat his unpleasant experience in play because the repetition carried along with it a yield of pleasure of another sort but none the less a direct one.

“Nor shall we be helped in our hesitation between these two views by further considering children’s play. It is clear that in their play children repeat everything that has made a great impression on them in real life, and that in doing so they abreact the strength of the impression and, as one might put it, make themselves master of the situation. But on the other hand it is obvious that all their play is influenced by a wish that dominates them the whole time the wish to be grown-up and to be able to do what grown-up people do. It can also be observed that the unpleasurable nature of an experience does not always unsuit it for play. If the doctor looks down a child’s throat or carries out some small operation on him, we may be quite sure that these frightening experiences will be the subject of the next game; but we must not in that connection overlook the fact that there is a yield of pleasure from another source. As the child passes over from the passivity of the experience to the activity of the game, he hands on the disagreeable experience to one of his playmates and in this way revenges himself on a substitute.

“Nevertheless, it emerges from this discussion ‘that there is no need to assume the existence of a special imitative instinct in order to provide a motive for play. Finally, a reminder may be added that the artistic play and artistic imitation carried out by adults, which, unlike children’s, are aimed at an audience, do not spare the spectators (for instance, in tragedy) the most painful experiences and can yet be felt by them as highly enjoyable. This is convincing proof that, even under the dominance of the pleasure principle, there are ways and means enough of making what is in itself unpleasurable into a subject to be recollected and worked over in the mind. The consideration of these cases and situations, which have a yield of pleasure as their final outcome, should be undertaken by some system of aesthetics with an economic approach to its subject-matter. They are of no use for our purposes, since they presuppose the existence and dominance of the pleasure principle; they give no evidence of the operation of tendencies beyond the pleasure principle, that is, of tendencies more primitive than it and independent of it.”

-Sigmund Freud, Beyond the Pleasure Principle (1920)

Interlocutor

Interlocutor 4 (2004)

I’m thinking about un-disowning some of the paintings I did at MICA.Ā  I dragged them out of the closet to look at them, since I wasn’t sure if I wanted to include one or two of them in my little introductory slide show thing at Windsor (for a point of reference as to how crazy I am, I’ve actually been rehearsing what I plan on saying every night when I’m lying in bed–this is just like a five minute deal, and all I plan to say is “Hello, I’m Steven. I’m from Florida and I got my BFA at MICA,” and then cut to slides. Really, not something that needs rehearsing). I figured it might be useful, but really? I’m just looking to prove that my work did have some kind of “edge,” at some point, anyway. Clearly I have little else to do with my free time other than fret about all the ways people might not like me.

Anyway, it isn’t that I really lost faith in the blackface paintings. I stopped making them because the circumstances of my life changed, and I didn’t have the stamina for that kind of work, anymore. Also, I had to leave all of my oil paints in Baltimore when I came back to Tampa. And they were kind of Baltimore-specific, anyway. Granted, critiques were a headache–painting faculty who could only bring themselves to talk about paint handling (my biscuits? oh, that burned them); that guy who referred to me as “that guy who painted himself blue; dozens of people who couldn’t stop telling me how funny they were, and one or two people who just told I was a racist, pure and simple (that was actually the only criticism I got that could potentially be valid–I hope it isn’t, but I can’t say I didn’t see it coming)–but I only took them off my site because a) they don’t really… mesh with what I do now, and they would have been distracting; and b) I didn’t really want to talk about them anymore.

But looking at them again, now, I’m kind of taken aback at how good they are. I’ve been out of oil painting for so long that it’s a bit shocking to realize that I am (or was) actually quite good at it (I apologize, my modesty tends to falter considerably as regards my work–I assure you, gentle reader, that it’s always a shock when things turn out well, but I don’t care to denigrate what I do for the sake of decorum–I spend quite enough time trashing everything else I do. I’ve also been known to find ways of working my SAT scores [1500] into casual conversation, but that’s just because I’m kind of a dick sometimes). The paintings have darkened a little in the last three years; some of that will go away with a little sunlight, but I think it makes them a little handsomer. In any case, I don’t think they’re ever going back on the portfolio, but they are on flickr, now.

Unrelatedly, I downloaded Fergie’s solo album. Mostly so I could listen to “Big Girls Don’t Cry” over and over again without having to hit the “watch again” button on YouTube. And somewhere in the chorus there’s some little synth fall that sounds, for the life of me, like my cellphone ringtone. It’s driving me bonkers. Not bonkers enough to turn the song off, though.

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So I actually made something for the first time in some time. I was worried that it was going to come out looking either like a rat or a rat with a pig’s face, but I’m pretty confident now that it looks like the cat it was meant to look like. Ignore the odd blue panda-like markings. The cat is going to end up gessoed (I’m currently waiting for the first layer of glue size to set up) and painted a fairly uniform gray, which, if I get my act together, should be done with an encaustic (melted beeswax + damar varnish), tinted with the little packet of Mt. St. Helens ash I found when I was cleaning out Mom’s office.

In other news, lack of sleep + landscapers + pool repairpeople + packing + moving companies coming in to give estimates + grad school + website work have all conspired to make me feel like taking a swan dive into the empty pool. But. I think maybe things are starting to shape up. Going out with friends from high school this past Friday was … pleasant and traumatic in equal measure. I was made aware of the fact that I’m really not quite up for contact with the outside world, just yet, but that maybe I’ll be on surer footing in a couple months, when it’s going to be more urgent.

The paternal threat was that an appointment with a local driving school would be made for me, today. I’m wondering, if I’m careful not to bring it up, if it can be postponed until maybe next week.

May 13

Oh, but it’s all up and down today. I don’t remember how I fared last Mother’s Day, but this time around the constant barrage of last minute gift-idea and weekend-sale ads are really getting to me. Mom’s been in all of my dreams for at least the past week, but it’s really not so bad. The dreams used to oftentimes be quite violent, and she’d usually be quite sick in them; I’d wake up in real distress every time I had one, doubly so because not only were the dreams themselves unpleasant, but I’d have to remind myself each time I woke up that she was really gone. The ones I have now seem to be getting more mundane–pleasant trips to whacked-out dream-time shopping malls, airports, hotels and whatnot (I don’t know why it’s always large public places; probably means I need to get out more), and she’s appearing healthy and at her old weight. It’s actually nice, like being able to spend time with her again.

But still, today’s a bit rough; I’ve been rollercoastering between giddy excitement and protracted sobbing jags. We’re stepping up the packing and cleaning process: dad seems to want to have the place ready to have movers (for an estimate) and a realtor in by the end of this coming week. We’ve got landscapers coming in this week; repairmen are coming to fix the tile and deck around the pool. It makes sense, I suppose. The plan is to move to Oxford some time in mid-June, so it stands to reason that moving would be in high gear. Still, it’s patently bizarre, preparing to permanently move out of the only permanent “home” I’ve had since… 1994, I guess we moved in? Much more so because it means I won’t have a place in Florida to come back to. What’s more, deciding what to keep or pitch of my own belongings is harrowing enough, but I suspect that packing mom’s office, which has been more or less untouched since she died, is going to be considerably worse. Because, though I would really like to keep all of the old books on paleontology and palynology and whatnot, it’s clear that neither I nor anyone else is ever going to read them.

So, anyway, Mother’s Day + moving + grad school have conspired to put an edge on everything.

Yesterday I got an email with my TA position and preliminary committee (new media with Sigi Torinus. My friend Susan speaks highly of her; I’m just worried that I’m going to be mostly in the way, since I know little to nothing about “new media art” except a fair amount of the software). Also, for the first time I know the names of the other people who’ll be starting the program with me. Sadly, my efforts at Google-stalking haven’t yielded much. There’s one guy, who I think is more or less my age, who has/is a band, and another guy who has paintings up at the Saatchi thing, who seems nice (that assessment being based on the fact that I think he “looks friendly”) and just graduated with his BFA. I wasn’t able to track down any of the three women (Nadia, Marzenna, and Henrejeta–such good names!). Well, one girl was on Facebook and had a one-line mention as a theatrical set painter. Didn’t friend-request since that seemed… weird, somehow. Her profile picture was her (I assume) in a geisha costume and makeup (…). So not much to go by. My not-so-secret hope is that there’s at least one keener in the group who’ll be all “yay! let’s all get to know each other! and be best friends! an give each other pedicures!” so that… I don’t have to. I hadn’t thought until now to try and track down the second-year candidates; that will be next on the agenda. We were also instructed to put together a CD of ten or so images to present when we get there, but every time I’ve tried to think ahead that far, I’ve started dry-heaving.

The reality that I’m going to be moving somewhere hundreds of miles away from everyone I know, to a program with only eleven people in it, is starting to set in. Cam called midday and I actually cried out, “but what if nobody likes me?” in between sobs. That’s something that only people in sitcoms say. But really, what if?

Anyway. It’s clearly time to return to my personal Lord of the Rings movie marathon, because if I think any more about any of these things, or, indeed, the ottoman-humping youtube videos, I’m going to get a migraine. Because miming the boning of furniture while wearing… surgical masks and latex gloves (as shown in the second link), it absolutely and utterly beyond my capacity to interpret.

Dirt off my shoulders

I’ve been feeling a measure of ungrounded panic for the past couple of days. It could be moving-related, in some capacity, but I’m pretty sure that as soon as that gets resolved, I’ll just find something else on which to fixate. The website for the Canadian consulate in Detroit assures me once more that, really, honestly, I can just show up at the border with my application form and my check made out to them and enter the country without any problems. We’ll see if I can drum up the resolve to actually give them a call, today, or if that will wait until next week, or if I’ll just assume that everything is all-go and never get around to calling anybody ever. I’m clearly not going to be able to put this to rest until somebody tells me, literally tells me, that I’m good to go. Several times. Can’t Windsor just send somebody to pick me up?

I need an assistant. Not at all because I’m in any way shape or form busy, but because I’m just not that great at… life, and need to have arrangements made for me if I’m ever to get anything done.

In pleasant news, however, I got word yesterday that I’ve received something called the “President’s Excellence Scholarship” for an additional $3000. Adding that to the half-tuition scholarship I’ve already received, the $8,000 GA position (unsure if that figure covers one year or two: in either case, given the number of hours I’m actually expected to work for it, it will still be the highest-paying job I’ve ever held. That’s a little bit sad.), and likely the remainder of my tuition waived (word on that comes later in the summer), I’m doing quite well, support-wise. Of course, because I have a problem accepting that nice things happen either because I’ve earned them or “just ’cause,” it’s all making me a little bit suspicious.

I need to get out more.

Gah!

So the contact point at the graduate college assures me that I can just apply for my Canadian student visa at the border, when I move: I should be able to make out a $125 check, present my official acceptance letter and some paperwork that demonstrates sufficient funds for a year and be good to go. Given how poorly my last attempt at entering Canada went, this seems like a terrible idea. If customs in Winnipeg felt the need to search my luggage and my person for over an hour just so I could visit for a week and a half, do I really want to show up at the border with all of my stuff and ask to please live there for two years without a visa already firmly in hand? It seems like a poor, poor idea, but that’s what they’re telling me I’m supposed to do… nervous!

If I hear one more Doogie Howser joke…

Classes are winding down for the semester, which means that, more and more, the only focus of my attention has been the forthcoming (temporary) move to Ohio, and the transition to grad school after that. With the application process over, I’ve had to turn to other areas onto which I might project my neuroses; I have chosen, for the time being, to allow my age to be chief among them.

Of course I can’t know until I get there how old the other people in my class are going to be, I do know that there are only going to be four of them, and I am almost certainly guaranteed to be the youngest of them, and it may be by a considerable margin. There’s no real reason for me to suspect that I would have any problem working in an environment where the other MFA candidates were all 5, 10, 20 years my senior, but it’s nevertheless something about which I feel terribly self-conscious, if for no other reason than, whether it proves to be something that ever comes up or not, my age is probably going to set me apart from the group, and that’s not something I feel is a good thing.

Beyond that, there is an expectation (and this is even more prominent in Canada, where people seem to wait an exceptionally long time between getting their BFAs and beginning a master’s program) that people coming into the MFA program have cultivated some degree of distance from their undergrad work, spent some time within the broader art world, and cultivated some of that dreadful psuedoqualifier, “life experience.” Never mind that I spent what will be almost two years away from art school, about as distanced as one can get from it, in fact, having been completely isolated in this house for the entire time, and I think that people who bandy about their Great and Impactful Life Experiences usually do so as a way of bullying others into believing that what they have to say is somehow More Important than anything that anybody else might have to contribute, it remains true that I have zero art-world experience. And, at the end of the day, I don’t really feel like a “grown-up,” at twenty-two, and I will be in a decidedly “grown-up” environment, starting in September.

This is only compounded by the nature of my work itself. Susan at the MFA office assures me that my work was “almost universally well-received” and even hinted at “interest in [my] work” on the part of the local gallery and the artist-run centre (time will tell if this was an empty pleasantry or if there is actual interest at either place), and I’m certainly confident in the quality of what I’ve produced since 2005, there’s a part of me that worries I’ll be easily dismissed. Plenty of people have assured me that anyone would write what I do off as merely “cute” is not someone whose opinion I should be holding in high esteem, but Windsor is an awfully small program, and I worry that I could theorize and cite art historical points of reference until I was blue in the face, and there would still be people that just see stuffed animals.

But all of this is really of little consequence until I actually arrive on the scene and can assess the situation firsthand. I’d probably also feel a great deal better if I were still making things, presently, but any actual production of work more or less halted when the applications came due, so I’ve just been left to obsess over what’s already been made, rather than work constructively on anything new. Clearly, I need to tend to that.